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LOVE, LIFE and Relationships can be as magical and powerful as the full spectrum of a rainbow.
When it comes to life on this planet, the most important relationship we have is the one with our self, and that "SELF" is individualized as every human and creature manifest on this planet.
What we do to any one person, or anything, we do to everything. There is no separation between “out there” and “in here”. We are all connected.
One of the greatest mistakes we make as individuals is to look outside of ourselves for love, happiness, prosperity, healing and joy. Nothing that we want or need can be found outside of us. Rather, life is an inner-journey which reflects outwardly as the people we meet and the situations we create.
Every thought and belief has its own unique vibration. Therefore, when it comes to friendships and relationships, since we are all connected energetically, we will attract into our life the people who reflect our current vibration, and our current state of awareness about life and love.
As we move forward in our life's journey and we attract someone into our life who we connect with emotionally and intimately, We need to pay attention to whether we are attracting someone to fulfill our emotional needs, or someone to share our love with. There is a difference, and the difference has an enormous affect on the length and outcome of the relationship.
Building a relationship with someone is like growing a flower garden. It's not enough to connect with the person intimately and emotionally. A flower is beautiful at first sight, but needs sunshine and water to sustain itself. Likewise, we must water our relationships with honest and regular communication, love, affection, gratitude, romance, and showing a genuine interest in each other’s lives.
Our partner in life will be the perfect reflection of the lessons we need to learn and teach. And, if we paid attention, and attracted the relationship based on the intent of sharing love rather than seeking love, our partner will be our most fun and loving companion.
As we share our lives, we can either play it safe, and tip-toe into the waters, or we can make ourselves vulnerable to evolve and grow, and jump in and immerse ourselves in our full potential.
We can walk on the sand..., or be silly and playful, and make sand-angels. Each of these choices takes courage and wisdom, through which our personal power grows. If we shift back into old patterns or fear, we can just as easily push away that which we attracted.
All relationships go through cycles. There will be times when we are very close to our partner, and times when we need space. Each serves its own purpose of reflection and rejuvenation. If a relationship changes, it can be for healthy reasons, or the resurgence of old, destructive patterns, or limiting beliefs.
When two people first meet and "fall in love" they focus on what they like about each other. As time moves forward, and they become more familiar with each other, they tend to shift their focus on what they don't like. Whatever we focus on, we magnify. If two people connect from the heart and soul, and their core values and interests are harmonic, the platfom which keeps the relationship strong is to make it a practice of "checking-in" through honest communication and giving focus and attention to their partner's strengths and beauty.
Of course, at the top of the list is HAVING LOTS OF FUN together. Personal growth is only one part of a relationship. If two people aren't having fun together then what's the point of being together. Realistically, the person that you're in a relationship with should be the most fun person in your life because the energy of FUN and GIGGLING and LAUGHTER IS the energy of LOVE.
Close relationships are definitely rewarding and challenging. They are not always convenient, and they take patience, a willingness to learn and grow and a true sense of dedication to looking long-term towards building something greater than ourselves as individuals. It also takes courage to look ahead past the moment, while at the same time, acknowledging that we are all a work in progress.
One of the most beautiful aspects of a sincere relationship is bringing out the best in each other, and introducing each other to new ways of doing things, new ways of living and new ways of loving. If two people get along at the core, and truly love each other, with time and patience, they will positively influence each other to grow and evolve, which will strengthen their bond, and allow the relationship to grow, evolve and become stronger.
Of course, there is no "One Perfect Person" out there. None of us are the "One Perfect Person" for anyone, and that's great. It means there is room for growth, opening the doors to new possibilities, allowing the relationship to mature and expand. If I was everything that someone was looking for, then the relationship would become predictable and boring.
If someone wants their partner to be the "One Perfect Person," it won't last because eventually they will start focusing on what they don't like rather than what they do like because they are wanting their partner be everything, and they can't be everything.
Coming from a place of inner harmony where our core emotional, spiritual and physical needs are met through our own awareness of who we are as individuals, two independent people can come together and inter-weave their lives, love and lifestyle in a way that brings freshness to ourself and to the relationship.
It takes Courage, Spiritual Compatibility and Similar Interests for a relationship to work long-term. Our interests need to be similar enough that we get along easily and naturally, and different enough that we both bring newness to each others lives. There also needs to be a similar level of emotional and mental maturity, to work through any of the natural challenges that come when two people choose to share their lives.
A good sign of whether we're on the right path with someone is if we get along easily and naturally, we help to bring out the best in each other, and we have lots of genuine fun together, and learn and grow together. With those elements, there's a better chance that the two will work through the natural challenges of a relationship.
The people we spend time with outside our relationship can positively or negatively affect the relationship. If everything is great within the relationship, yet our peers and circle of influence is more negative, it can potentially bring the relationship down.
Being in a relationship is like having a magnifying glass on our heart, mind and soul. The person we are in relation with can bring out the best in us or the worst in us, sometimes a little of both. Relationships provide the opportunity to learn, grow and evolve far faster than if we were on our own.
When we are truly relating with someone, from the inside out, through the heart and soul, we make ourselves emotionally and spiritually vulnerable. It can be scary and often times people talk themselves out of something that is truly wonderful. We can also talk ourselves into something wonderful!
Again..., the most valuable relationship we ever have is the one with ourself.
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